Dear Sarah,
People are always telling me to make new friends. I’m pretty indifferent about meeting new people, but it takes a lot of effort because of my introversion and I feel like I have enough friends already. Should I take the effort to meet new people? I’ve already decided that being true to myself isn’t a viable option.
Sincerely,
Alone but not lonely
Dear Alone,
It’s hard to define a “picturesque” social life. There are those who walk around in packs, secretly craving the one-on-one intimate relationships that form in small groups of friends. Then, there are those who are members of an intimate group, still trying to expand and ensure a diverse social life.
There is no “right” way to be social. Encouraging you to meet new people would not be my first piece of advice. Before you become the person on Tinder looking for “friendship,” think about what you expect in a group of friends. Now think about your group of friends. Are they providing you with the support, laughter and knowledge that you want? If your friends support you and make you happy, then you are in good shape.
Actively searching for friends won’t necessarily make you happy. With that being said, you can never have too many friends. Try and keep your eyes open. Get involved in interesting organizations and get to know the people involved. Making friends doesn’t have to be a plan. Instead, allow it to happen naturally, not because other people are demanding it.
Sincerely,
Sarah Saad