The morning sun shines through the window and before you gather your thoughts, you get the creepy feeling you’re not alone. Is this the opening scene of a horror movie or a one-night stand?
Well it isn’t a fairytale, so let’s run through Cinderella’s choices. Prince Charming should be the shining example of chivalry, but if he falls short, have no fear. The following apply to the ladies who have no long-term expectations and who want to leave politely, with their dignity intact.
1. Romeo should bring his armor to battle, but ladies: It is never a poor choice to carry condoms
The benefits: Not only the peace of mind, but preference: spermicidal or flavored? Either way you’re ready even if he’s not. The downside: Condoms aren’t cheap, the free ones from University Health Services might make you feel scummy and his tool should be his responsibility.
2. Have an escape plan
Let’s assume you forgot to tell him up front about your expectations. Whoops. Just because you met him last night Downtown at last call does not mean he is not looking for a relationship. Tell him the night prior that you’re meeting a friend for lunch. This will give you the option of leaving politely in the morning, instead of having to make an excuse while you’re hung over. Men want what they can’t have, so leaving early and appearing to lead a busy life is always a plus.
3. Once he’s awake remember the following: It’s only awkward if you make it
Fighting the stigma around a one-night stand is difficult, especially while you’re hung over, but make the effort. “That was nice. I have to start my day now.”
4. Clean up after yourself
Ducking out is not an option. Be sure not to leave your bra/watch/cell phone. Unless you want to see him again, make it something you can do without. If he cares, he will call. If not, that takes us to No. 5.
5. Don’t take it personally
Maybe you feel like you were doing him a favor, and the idea of him rejecting you is laughable.
Sean Cronin, a senior English major, encourages honesty when reflecting on past one-night stands.
“Call a spade a spade — a one-night stand is what it is, just smile, be polite and give him time to call you back,” Cronin said.
If you do want to see him again, mention getting lunch some day — anything that does not imply a booty call.
Accepting your actions is a tough one, but let’s be a mature, articulate, modern woman. You don’t have to morally accept your actions, Cinderella, but manners are for your peace of mind, so keep your head held up high.
Nithin “Nitty” Shenoi, a senior environmental studies major, believes in switching the double standard when it comes to a one-night stand.
“Women should not feel guilty,’” Shenoi said. “It’s not the walk of shame, it’s the walk of game.”