I hope that I’ve opened some of your eyes to new and exciting ways to heat things up in the bedroom these past three semesters. But recently I’ve come across what I think will be all the rage in 2016: rope.
Now, rope bondage techniques are nowhere near a new development. In fact, the Japanese have been using ropes sexually since as early as the 1600s. The practices of using ropes for sexual pleasure is not one for beginners or the faint of heart, but for those of you who have been taking my advice and have started to get a little bored — I think you may be ready.
Recently, all over cities like New York and San Francisco, leather harnesses have become en vogue in and out of the bedroom and it has allowed for other kinks to become less and less stigmatized and more and more open to experimentation. Missionary just won’t cut it anymore and at this rate, I don’t exactly find your regular run-of-the-mill leather harness and choker all that stimulating either. That’s where ropes come in.
Being bound can be as simple as rope ties keeping one’s wrists together, to being hog-tied — with the legs and arms tied together behind one’s back — to the most extreme of being suspended while bound. These positions are incredibly exciting for those particularly turned on by dominant and submissive behaviors, and these acts in particular are often found to be the most stimulating in comparison to other sects of BDSM culture due to the extreme nature.
Beginners might just want to start wearing rope harnesses during scenarios to get used to the feeling of the ropes on their skin while having sex, and also to get used to the tension while still having free range of movement. I would recommend that anyone interested do a simple Google search of ‘rope bondage 101.’ Try not to be intimidated by a little rope burn, it’s a new world we’re living in and there is so much more to sex than just a couple of pumps and then done.
But be aware, rope is not the safest kink to experiment with. For starters, the top (the one doing the tying and dominating) and the bottom (the one tied up) need to have immense trust in one another. The bottom in particular is in a unique position of danger when bound by ropes and left helpless. If the scenario is with the wrong person, the bottom can be severely hurt or — in the worst-case scenario — killed. But don’t let that scare you away: rope doesn’t have to be dangerous, one just needs to be careful and comfortable with whomever they choose to partake in this unique way of pleasure.
Just as all sex should be, it’s based around communication and trust. One should never feel uncomfortable or taken advantage of when trying new sexual acts. Remember, it should be about being pleased and having a good time.
It’s time to take the reigns and learn the ropes.