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Hi Sarah.

I’m currently a senior at Binghamton University. I’m having a hard time being by myself and I want to have a boyfriend. The thing is though, every time I show interest in a guy it turns out he isn’t interested. What should I do? I’m a good-looking and smart female.

Thanks,

LM

Dear LM,

Let’s face it. Nothing is worse than going home and having every relative over retirement age ask you whether or not you’re in a relationship. You debate whether to tell them you’re having an affair with a professor or convince them you’re taking this semester to focus on classes, but deep down you’re fighting those emotions you think are pointless to cry over.

First, know that those feelings are very raw and you shouldn’t hesitate to acknowledge them. But also know that searching for your perfect man isn’t going to make him appear. I’m not going to say, “It’s going to happen when you least expect it” because nothing is more cliché than that response. I will say, focus on other aspects of your life. As you said, you’re good looking and smart. You’re only a senior once and that experience will only be as great as you allow it to be, with or without a relationship.